What To Do If Your Kids Are Too Obsessed With Being Cool/ Popular
Being a parent involves a lot of hard work, dedication, and patience. This is especially true for parents that are watching their children grow so quickly. As our children grow older, they can’t help but be conscious on what other people and kids think about them. During this particular phase, our kids find it very important to be called a “cool” kid. Suddenly, your kids are embarrassed whenever you accompany them in school or in other places. They become very concerned of their image. They do all of this just to be one of the popular kids they see in school.
If you notice the same dilemma with your kids, you have to understand that being a kid is tough. In this article, allow me to share with you some tips that you may use as your guide when your kids become too obsessed with being cool.
1. You have to understand that this is normal.
This may seem a little bit odd at first but the best solution to this dilemma is to let our kids be. As adults, we understand the fact that being popular and being cool means very little to us. But you have to understand that your kids are not yet matured thinkers. Back in the days when we were kids, it is likely that we think the same way they do.
Sometimes it is best to stay calm and let our kids be when going through this tough phase in their lives. Give him the things he is desperate for provided you have the budget for it. But of course, it is not advisable that you go beyond your budget just to give your kid the schoolyard credibility he hungers for. For as long as your kid does not demand or becomes too obsessed on buying the things he likes just to fit in and become one of the cool kids in school, then just let him be because this is normal.
2. Tell them what really matters.
In the event that your child goes too far and he is starting to lose perspective, help him by simply letting him know the things that really matter. Do not discourage them, instead, tell them that it is their attitude and actions that will make them popular and accepted. You have to remind them that being friendly and kind to others is the secret to being popular or cool, it is never the clothes or things we have.
3. You have to communicate with your children.
If you are having problems with your kid, you have to take the time to communicate with him. Remind them of how lucky they really are, for having a family that gives them food, shelter, and love each and everyday. Communicate well with your kid so he does not resent you by not giving him what he likes.